When was the last time you said that to yourself? Have you ever said that to yourself?
Imagine you and a friend sit down for coffee. She tells you all about her job that she hates, her struggles to find “The One” and even reveals she’s been thinking about starting an Etsy shop for her homemade essential oil sprays.
You can tell from her tone that she really hates her job. As you read between the lines, you immediately know that they are yanking her chain, definitely under paying her and if she’s not careful, she’ll be one of those burnt out and bitter co-workers. You suggest she finally apply to that graduate program that would help her redirect her career. You remind her that you believe in her and that you’re her number one fan.
You notice as she’s talking about finding “The One” that she’s still dating the same kind of low-level guys she usually does. These guy’s aren’t calling her back and she’s investing way more time on Mr. Wrong than Mr. Right.. You grab her by the shoulders and say “Friend, you are the most beautiful, intelligent and driven woman I know! Any man would be lucky to have you. Don’t settle - I believe in you. The One will be here before you know it.”
And this Etsy shop? You think, “How cool! She’d be perfect at that! Her products are amazing!” As she talks about how she’s not ready and wants to wait until she has the perfect logo, you tell her “No way! You gotta do this now! I believe in you!”
Isn’t it funny how easy it is for us to cheer other people on? We always have the best advice for other people,
But what about the advice we give ourselves? Is your inner voice as nice to you as you are to your friends?
It’s taken a lot of time and reflection to get my inner thoughts to sound more like the advice-giving-friend in the story above. I was once like maybe you are now… doubting yourself, cheering on everyone else, unwilling to believe in myself.
The first step in believing in yourself is actually telling yourself that you believe in you! Just like you would encourage and support your friend, you have to encourage and support you!
So, when was the last time you told yourself “I believe in you”? If it’s been a while (or ever!), I encourage you to start today. Maybe it helps to hear it from me: whatever it is that you need, whatever it is that you want out of this life, I believe in you!
Love,
Kelsey💓